Seth Godin points out that as human beings we haven’t been authentic since we were six-months-old, pooping in our diapers. Since then we’ve been putting on a show for the world.
That show requires you to be “fake.” After all, you wouldn’t poop your pants in public.
My boss is always nice to me, regardless of what kind of day he’s had or how much he might like me on the inside. I’ve never heard that he’s said something disparaging about me behind my back, and if he talked about me I trust he’d only do it for the betterment of the student-athletes. If I heard otherwise I’d ask him about it, because I’d assume there was a misunderstanding.
My boss is “authentic,” not in the sense that he always does or says what he feels, but that he keeps his promise: We are here to serve the student-athletes. Every word and action flows from that promise.
Stop worrying about fake friends; it’s hard to change other people.
Start worrying about defining and keeping your promise; it’s easy to change yourself.