Gossip when the person you’re “gossiping” to can change the situation you’re “gossiping” about.

Otherwise, zip it.

Being like God

Being like God is different than being a fatted pig, which you see everywhere at the bars.

Being like God is different than being a status-seeker, which you see everywhere in the workplace.

Being like God is different than being rich, for “it is easier for for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for someone who is rich to enter the kingdom of God.” (Matt. 19:24).

It’s no wonder few of us are happy.

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A bite out of an apple, like Adam and Eve eating the forbidden fruit. I love Peter Kreeft’s take:

“It comes with a warning: take a bite of this apple, and you will fall from Love to Power, from Happiness to Success, from Wisdom to Knowledge, and from Freedom to Addiction.” (p. 244).

Will a relationship make you happY?

That depends. Are you looking for a relationship so that you can be happy? Or are you looking for a relationship so that you can make the other person happy?

The former looks like two people in an ocean, grasping at each other to keep from drowning. The later looks like an old couple celebrating its sixtieth wedding anniversary, surrounded by kids and grandkids.

“To love is to will the good of the other.” ~Thomas Aquinas

Loving your sport

I don’t think it’s necessary to love your sport. That would be like saying Winston Churchill loved killing Germans during World War II. I think it’s necessary to bear it, and if not the sport then something else, because we all have crosses to bear during this life. Remember that the word passion comes from the Latin root that means “to suffer.”

In recent years I’ve seen more and more athletes quit their sports because of “mental health,” and while mental health concerns are obviously important and an awareness of their potentially arising is obviously good, it’s equally important to recognize that high-level sport is supposed to create hard-to-bear emotions. In fact, the bearing is where the happiness is.

The best leaders

The best leaders are not the most gregarious or persuasive. They’re not necessarily talented. They don’t have PhD’s, MBA’s, and they sure as hell don’t take leadership classes.

The best leaders are quiet and unsure of themselves, but they are righteous. The best leaders are like Moses, stuttering and in despair, but still chosen to lead his people out of Egypt.

Love is patient, love is kind

You know the verse, oft-recited at weddings:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” (1 Cor. 13:4-8).

The trick is not to run around looking for love as though you were a detective with clues “patient,” “kind,” and “no envy.” The trick is to replace your name with “love” in the verse above and see how you’re doing.